🗺️ Love Map Quiz

What a love map is

The phrase "love map" comes from relationship researcher John Gottman, who used it for the mental picture you carry of your partner's inner life: who matters to them, what worries them this week, what they hope for, what comforts them. The idea is simple. The more detailed that picture is, the easier it is to show up for someone in the ways they actually notice. This quiz is a playful way to check your own map, not a scientific measurement.

How to take it

Answer each question honestly about whether you could answer it right now, without asking. You're not typing the answer, just rating how confident you are. There are fourteen questions and each one touches a different area: friendships, current stress, future dreams, comfort, childhood, music, pride, routines, fears, family and daily life. Your score comes out as a percentage and lands in one of four bands.

Reading your result

Below 40 percent lands in Plenty of blank pages. It doesn't mean anything is wrong; it usually means you've been busy or you're still early on. From 40 to 64 is A rough sketch, where you know the main roads but not the side streets. From 65 to 84 is A well-used map. At 85 and above you get You could draw it blindfolded. The most useful part isn't the band, though. Look back at the questions where you picked "I'd be guessing" or "No idea". Those are your conversation starters.

An example

Imagine you breeze through "Do you know your partner's go-to comfort food after a hard day?" but stall on "Do you know what's stressing your partner out most this week?" That gap is common. Many couples know the stable, long-term facts and lose track of the things that change week to week. The fix isn't a big talk. It's asking "What's on your mind this week?" over dinner and actually listening to the answer.

Ways to play it together

• Side by side: both take the quiz separately, then compare scores and swap the questions each of you guessed on.
• Prove it: for every question you rated "Yes, right away", say your answer out loud and let your partner confirm.
• One a day: take one question you weren't sure about and ask it each evening for two weeks.
• Long distance: take it on a video call, then text each other the answers you were least sure of.
• Anniversary check: retake it once a year and see which areas have changed.

Mistakes to avoid

Don't turn a low score into an accusation. "You don't even know my best friend's name" starts a fight; "I realized I don't know how you met Sam, tell me" starts a story. Don't inflate your ratings either. The quiz only helps if the "guessing" answers are honest. And don't treat the result as a verdict on your relationship. A detailed map is nice, but so is the curiosity to keep drawing it.

When to take it

It fits a quiet night in, a long car ride, the first weeks after moving in together, or a stretch when one of you has been especially busy with work or family. It's also a good check after a big life change, like a new job, a new baby or a move, when the details of daily life shift and the old map needs updating.

Turning your gaps into questions

Every question here converts easily into something to ask. "Could you name a fear your partner has?" becomes "What's something that scares you, even a little?" "Do you know what your partner would do with a free month off work?" becomes a fun daydream over breakfast. Pick the three you were least sure about, write them on a sticky note, and work through them this week. Then retake the quiz and see how your score moves.

If you both score high, try the harder version: answer each question out loud and let your partner rate how close you got.

FAQ

What are love map questions?

They are questions about your partner's inner world, such as who their closest friend is, what's stressing them this week, or what they dream of doing in five years. The term comes from John Gottman's work on couples. The goal is to stay curious and keep your picture of your partner current.

How well do you know your partner quiz: how does it work?

You rate whether you could answer each of fourteen questions about your partner without asking them. Answers are weighted from zero to three, and the total becomes a percentage. Four result bands describe how detailed your picture of their world is.

What is a good score on a love map quiz?

Anything above 65 percent means you know your partner's world well, and 85 or higher is excellent. More useful than the number is the list of questions you guessed on, because those show exactly what to ask next.

Should both partners take the love map quiz?

Yes, it's more fun that way. Take it separately, compare results, then ask each other the questions you were unsure about. Often one partner knows the long-term facts while the other knows the week-to-week details.

How do you improve your love map?

Ask open questions regularly, especially about things that change, such as current worries, plans and friendships. One real question a day over dinner helps more than one big conversation a month. Retake the quiz after a few weeks to see what's filled in.

Is this a scientific relationship test?

No. It's inspired by the love map idea but it's a for-fun self check, not a validated assessment. It can point to good conversation topics but it isn't meant to judge the health of your relationship.